As you get older, you are faced with the realization that secrets don't always stay between friends. Secrets when placed in the wrong hands have the potential to cause major damage that can take years to repair. Not only must we be careful who we share things with, but we also must be mindful of the information we share. You do not need to share every feeling or thought that pops into your head. Once those words or feelings are shared, anything can happen and you may just have to pay for it later.
I'm reminded of a time when I shared my opinion/confession with a dear friend of mine. Later on that information came out and hurt someone which caused some hurtful events to take place. I remembered feeling betrayed by my friend because what I shared with her was shared in confidence. Had I just kept that information to myself and prayed about it, things may have worked out differently. Like I said, some things are just better left unsaid.
I'm reminded of the scripture in James 4:11-12:
11 Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother, speaks evil of the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. 12 There is one Lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy. Who are you to judge another?
Yes, we will have times when someone gets under our skin and you want to vent, but I believe God is pushing us to come to Him instead of man. God can give you clarity about a situation when you turn it over to Him in prayer. Prayer can show you how to deal with that situation or person in a Godly way. He may show you that person's heart and cause you to love them in spite of their behavior toward you. He may show you how the enemy is trying to use that misunderstanding to bring about strife.
My prayer now is Lord help me to watch my tongue. It is true once a word is spoken, you can't take it back. So now we must be quick to listen and slow to speak. We can't be so quick to act when we're upset or in the heat of the moment. Take some time to walk away, pray and BE STILL!
Now if you are like me, it probably took some bumps and bruises before you gained this wisdom. That's okay! Romans 8:1 says: There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. Like little babies, as you're on this walk you may stumble and fall. God will correct you, pick you up and teach you to walk according to the Spirit.
Determine that you will not stay down. Learn your lesson and keep moving because I guarantee you there will be more lessons to learn. The key is to not beat yourself up and know that regardless of who has turned their back on you, God Still Loves You. I can tell you this from experience. He will never leave or forsake you. Stay encouraged and know you are a jewel in the rough.