3Don’t allow love to turn into lust, setting off a downhill slide into sexual promiscuity, filthy practices, or bullying greed.
After reading the scripture of the day this morning, I was reminded of how quickly love can turn into lust if we're not careful! I believe with all my heart that many of us will find love this year, but I believe God is warning us to take things slow. Don't make the mistake of compromising a God ordained relationship for a moment of lust and pleasure. Even God ordained relationships need a firm foundation to build upon. I have seen some promising relationships go down hill after lust and sex were introduced before it's time.
I know many of you know exactly what I'm talking about. I, too, have made that mistake before and it was so not worth it! I'm thankful that we serve a God of second chances and this time I'm determined to hold out for Love and not Lust! It's time to calm our hormones and fix our minds on building a lifetime of love instead of a weekend love.
So, how do we make sure we have a different outcome this time? Let's look at the mistakes we've made in the past that sabotaged our relationships.
1. Spending late nights at each other's house. Yes, I know you are so in love and you want to spend every waking moment with each other, but this only makes it harder to deny the lust of the flesh. Make it a policy to not spend time alone at each other's house regardless of the time of day. Temptation is present during the day and night! LOL Plan activities outside the house like skating, running, visits to the park, coffee shops. Do not use the lack of money as an excuse to stay inside. It's a trick!
2. Late night talks. These can be fun and remind you of your teenage years, but they can also quickly turn into pillowtalk or sexual talk. You must discern when it's time to hang up the phone. Besides, you need your sleep any way. Life and work for that matter will be staring you in the face in the morning! Learn to say goodnight!
3. Only spending time with your boo. Many of us cut off the rest of the world when we find love. I've had girlfriends that disappeared off the face of the earth after they fell in love only to reappear once things start to go downhill. Learn to have balance. If you're spending so much time with each other, you can't help but want to let your body take control. Spending time with other friends and family is not only healthy, but it will also give you some time to think logically about the relationship and where it's headed. Having a little space is key when you're trying to take things slow.
There are definitely more mistakes that we've made in the past that can lead to a relationship going down early on, but I believe these are the top three. If you know of more please chime in! We can all use the help. The key thing to keep in mind is this. You have waited too long and gone through too much to receive this second chance at love. Don't allow satan and his tricks to make you miss out on God's best for your life. Keep it holy and if you do things right this time, you can have all the FUN you want after you are married without feeling guilty about it!! Can I get an AMEN?!! Be Blessed!